I work with a lot of young people, especially young women, who don't always want to talk about school work with me and their futures as it pertains to their careers, instead, for some reason, God has put this glow on me and it makes people want to tell me their troubles; especially as it relates to relationships. I know what I've been thru, and you may know the things that I've shared, but it's hard to listen to these girls talk about their jerks, without me wanting to go find his ass and put him on blast.
Recently, I had a younger woman stop by my office in tears, I mean she was boo-hoo crying and I hadn't even had my coffee yet O_o Well, her boyfriend of the past 3 years had dumped her because he got another girl pregnant, immediately I felt her pain , but I couldn't cry with her because I've hardened over the years, yet I did empathize with her. She told me that she had been faithful to this guy and all the while, he was cheating on her with an older woman, who is married and has two other kids. I was like can this story get any worse!?
She was hurting and she wanted someone to tell her that everything was gonna be ok, I could definitely do that and I did. She also wanted me to hear her out as she told me that she was ok with playing in the role of Step-mother - at that moment, I want to slap the plaits out of her head O_o "You what!?", I said. She looked at me, as if to see if I was as serious as I sounded and I was. I asked her was she settling for an asshole! He cheated on her, he slept with another woman without using a condom and he dumped her - SMDH. I was like look, you're gonna do what you wanna do, but you're beautiful (she really is), and you're young (she's 19 and he's 23 working at a pig plant O_o), I'm sure there are tons of guys who have been waiting on you to drop the jerk.
I told her about some of my experiences and how I hadn't listened to people who were trying to educate me, except the only difference is that those people hadn't been thru what I was going thru, so they were just talking just to try to help - but here I am, telling her that I know EXACTLY what she's experiencing. I think I got thru to her, but I think that she's still ok with settling for his broke down ass. Of course you know he still calls her eveyday and he wants her back, because he's realized that he's not prepared to take care of a grown ass woman and her 2 and a half kids.
Why do people settle for the bullshit?! Is it because they're just living day to day and not thinking about the future? I think that's how I was living a few years ago. Young, dumb, and "in love".
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